Take it From Joe Biden: We All Should Have A Call List!

( You can hear more of my thoughts on my podcast, Keeping It Real With Alex Garrett , HERE! )

Firstly, to my friend Alex, you are completely right about how out of context the DC Examiner and many others took the stuttering from Joe Biden.

Here is exactly what Joe Biden said on the debate stage , “My wife and I have a call list..that we call at least every week or every month and tell them I’m here, I give them my private phone number, they keep in touch with me,” he said. “The little kid who says, ‘I-I-I-I-I can’t, I can’t talk, what do I do?’ It’s by far the most genuine moment I’ve ever read about from a politician. It struck a chord for myself.

Truth is I HAVE been bullied for being different . Sometimes I wished to have a healthy call list, but growing up the only call list I really ever felt was the pillow I laid my head on. I didn’t have Facebook to stay in touch with my amazing cousins, and opening up to my parents was at times a task. I just felt lost and isolated.

You wouldn’t think that if you saw my beaming smile wall to wall. at the Henry Viscardi School . You wouldn’t think that on Regis and Kelly clips. But truth is, I had a brutal time just connecting with my classmates. I never understood why , and may be never will.

Amazingly in the halls of school and college I had the ear of literally every one. Many included me But inside, I felt like I just didn’t fit in. So much so I would pay people just for friendship. That pattern extended into my 20s with one specific peer I broke friendship from.

I believe it’s because I wasn’t willing to develop a healthy call list AND whenever on calls with friends all I would talk about is …the Yankees, the Giants, everything external. My social connections have never ever felt natural, I’ve felt like I had to force my way in to any network. To feel rejected by your own peers at a very young age, it never leaves you. While I have forgiven, to be shoved in a locker , that sting sticks and it makes me hesitant to be truly myself. I channel it by doing crutchstands and podcasts because then I feel my real self.

The last two days I’ve been reminded how Trump mocked Times Reporter Serge Kovaleski , who has arthrogryposis. There is no denying he did. But as someone who rolls on one leg and had far more traumatizing hospital visits , I am not going to play the ‘victim’ card as many did in that moment and have tried to sway me to go along with the ‘Trump is a Bully’ idea. When you put yourself out there, disabled, able bodied no matter what, you should expect anything to be said to you.

My experiences also shaped me to withstand so much , that feeling sorry for myself has never been an option. Yet, the Biden call list struck a chord.


Hey there! My name is Alex Garrett and I’m a talk radio producer, podcaster and blogger! Find out more @alexnyc1 ! Email Alex@alexgnyc.com

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